My study of mediation theory has made me acutely aware of the faulty communication styles in my own home (which is the best lab, by the way!)
I almost never hear an honest answer, free of the following:
Blame
Defensiveness
Answering with a question
Assumptions
Justifications
I believe that we can 'cut the conflict' when we communicate authentically.
I also believe that we can practice selflessness, with the end-goal being that we do not take everything personally. We have the power to change this default setting.
Lastly, it will help all our relationships if we could respond instead of reacting to others. Responding sometimes requires those moments of silence in which to gather our thoughts. Don't be afraid of silence - it is your greatest ally in the heat of the moment.
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